I just wanted to let some of my friends that have been sent emails to me asking where I have been. Our son died July 11th in Houston TX. The ME has still not decided if he was murdered or if it was a suicide. Our shop has been closed since then but I hope to do some work this week. No one should never have to go through this. Thanks for the emails and I am sorry I haven't answered any of them. This is only the 3rd time the computer has been turned on since that day. I will try to answer everyone by the end of the week.
Posted by Curtis hammond (Member # 2170) on :
i am so very sorry..
Posted by Joe Rees (Member # 211) on :
Oh no, so sorry to hear it Cynthia. Thanks for the notice - anything we can do?
Posted by Monte Jumper (Member # 1106) on :
Cynthia ...it is impossible to say the right thing, so just know we're all here for support!
I am so sorry for your loss!
Posted by Myra Grozinger (Member # 327) on :
Cynthia, it took a lot to tell us. No matter what happened this is very wrong and should never have happened. I can't imagine your devastation. I am so very sorry. Stay in touch, we care. I don't know what else to say.
Posted by Dan Sawatzky (Member # 88) on :
Sorry to hear of your devastating loss.
-dan
Posted by Amy Brown (Member # 1963) on :
Sorry to hear that. You have a lot of support here if you need it
Amy
Posted by Rick Beisiegel (Member # 3723) on :
You are right, no one should have to endure that kind of loss.. our thoughts are with you.
Posted by Joe Crumley (Member # 2307) on :
Dear Cynthia,
I am so sorry you've had such a tragedy in your life. My thoughts and sympathy are with you.
My son also died a few month ago; it so is hard to burry a child. I'll never ever outlive the sorrow.
My best to you,
Joe
Posted by Cheryl Lucas (Member # 1656) on :
Cynthia,
I'm so sorry to hear this and know how difficult it was for you to post about it here. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Cher.
Posted by Cpack (Member # 2011) on :
This week has been especially bad. He would have turned 27 on the 24th of August. Thanks to all of you for the support.
Posted by Roy Frisby (Member # 736) on :
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers and may God carry you each step of the way thru this. God bless you!
Posted by Tasmus (Member # 445) on :
Amen to what Roy said, I can't imagine the difficulty of dealing with that kind of loss. I hope that you get the resolution you need soon to be able to come to terms with his death.
So sorry.
Posted by Bruce Bowers (Member # 892) on :
Cynthia,
I know you walk with God through your life and can only urge you to keep those ties with Him. Death is just the end of life within our bodies and I know your son will live forever cradled in the love and warmth of your heart.
I pray to the Lord Jesus Christ that He bring you peace and understanding during your times ahead, that He be there when you need to lean on Him for strength, and that He blesses you and yours.
I am humbled by your willingness to share this very personal news and your grief. There seems to be no explanation for what has happened. It would be easy to question God's role and why it went down as it did. All wisdom belongs to God – He knows everything and His wisdom is full of compassion and mercy.
Death casts a frightening shadow over us because we are entirely helpless in its presence. We can struggle with other pain, suffering, disease, or injury but strength and courage cannot overcome death. It has the final word.
Only one person can walk with us through death's dark valley and bring us safely to the other side - Jesus Christ, our Lord and shepherd. Because life is uncertain, we should follow Him who offers us eternal comfort.
I will leave you with these words from the 23rd Psalm:
The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want: He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: He leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for His name' sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: For thou art with me; Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies; Thou annointest my head with oil; My cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the House of the Lord forever.
My family's hearts ache for you for your loss.
Posted by Rick Chavez (Member # 2146) on :
I wish I could express words of hope and comfort to you for such a horrible loss, I am saddened by your loss and how it has effected you and your family. I hope your time is spent with caring and loving friends, family, and your faith, and please know that we all do care.
Posted by Jon Butterworth (Member # 227) on :
You have friends all over the world here sharing your grief.
We are "one big family"
Posted by Jean Shimp (Member # 198) on :
My prayers are with you. May God bless you and give you His peace.
Posted by Ian Stewart-Koster (Member # 3500) on :
Cynthia, we're all thinking of you- best wishes- and feel free to share your grief here-it does help.
Posted by Catharine C. Kennedy (Member # 4459) on :
Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Posted by Ray Rheaume (Member # 3794) on :
Cynthia,
Prayers and thoughts for you in this time of loss.
Rapid
Posted by Laura Butler (Member # 1830) on :
Cpack, My heart goes out to you and I hope that the prayers that go up from your family here on the BB will help ease the pain of your loss.
Posted by John Deaton III (Member # 925) on :
My heart goes out to you and your family. I can only imagine how you feel right now. God Bless you and yours.
Posted by Frank Magoo (Member # 3950) on :
I too lost a son, thoughI know how, he commited suicide after coming home from Desert Storm. Don't know to this day what prompted this, but the pain is there everyday I think of Damon. We aren't supposed to be burying our youngn's, they are supposed to bury us. I am not going to tell you that it gets better, I'm only going to site a poem: "As we accept the fact that the sun rises in the east and sets in the west, we must also accept the fact that young men die and old men must." I hope and pray for enlightenment and peace for you during these trying days.
Posted by Mark Rogan (Member # 3678) on :
Dear Cynthia, I haven't been around much lately, either. Too busy. I logged on just now and I see your post and I felt like I got punched in the stomach. I have no better words than those that have already been posted, but know my heart goes out to you and your family. May God help you get through this. Love, Mark
Posted by Jillbeans (Member # 1912) on :
I feel for you, and Joe, and Frank too. Words cannot comfort with such a terrible loss, and I feel inadequate typing them. But you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Love....Jill
Posted by Bill Diaz (Member # 2549) on :
I'm so sorry to hear of this tragedy, Cynthia. I will pray for you and your family and hope they can come to a conclusion about your son's death, so you all can get closure and have the strength you need to go on with your lives.
Posted by KARYN BUSH (Member # 1948) on :
i'm so sorry to hear of your pain...i know there is nothing anyone can say or do right to stop the heartbreak...the human life cycle is so complicated as everything we love is just borrowed...but the soul & spirit live on for eternity.
Posted by Brian Diver (Member # 1552) on :
Sorry for your loss and pain. Thank you Bruce for your good disertation, much better than I could say.
Posted by Sharon Bigler (Member # 2203) on :
IT JUST SUCKS! You have my prayers for you and your family.........there is nothing anyone can say or do but please know that you're being thought of with love and caring.
Posted by Janette Balogh (Member # 192) on :
Life can dish out some inconcievable cruelty, and then leave us with no choice but to walk thru the pain.
The sun will be slow to come out again, but it will. In the meantime, keep reaching out for the love and support around you.
Nettie
Posted by Kathy Joiner (Member # 1814) on :
I cannot imagine the pain you are going through. Our prayers and best wishes are with you.
Posted by Judy Pate (Member # 237) on :
Please know how much you are loved, and how much your loss is felt by all. You will contine to be in our thoughts and prayers. Judy
Posted by Gene Golden (Member # 3934) on :
Cynthia, If our words and thoughts are of any consolation to you, then we are doing all that we can to support you from here. Don't dwell on the reasons this happened, it will only bring you down. Talk to your son often, as I do to my Mom, I believe there is still a dialogue open.
Posted by Jane Diaz (Member # 595) on :
Cynthia, None of us can truly know your pain, but know that we are all thinking of you and your family. In your most difficult moments, I hope you can hear God whispering comforting words to you that hopefully will bring you some peace. There are no words that we can say that will help...just know that all of your friends on the board here care.
Posted by TransLab (Member # 470) on :
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Mike & Marie
Posted by John Largent (Member # 4606) on :
It matters not how he died . . But how he lived!
My condolences . . . . . . . .
Posted by Jack Keith (Member # 4499) on :
I can't imagine a more heart-wrenching thing...may the peace of God fill you and bring you comfort. You are in our prayers.
Jack
Posted by Joey Madden (Member # 1192) on :
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family
Posted by Doug Allan (Member # 2247) on :
It's always sad to hear of such a tragedy Cynthia, and especially involving someone from out relatively small family here. I pray for you to recieve greater understanding & peace in time as you endure this devastating loss.
Posted by FranCisco Vargas (Member # 145) on :
I'm short for words, but may he rest in peace and God keep you blessed, my heart goes out to you. FranCisco Vargas
Posted by Sue Avery (Member # 686) on :
I'm so sorry.
God still loves you even while your heart is breaking.
Our hearts ache for you.
Sue
Posted by david drane (Member # 507) on :
Dear cynthia, I also don't post here often and felt really sad for you when I read your post. Although your heart is aching please take heart that many people here are thinking of and praying for you. Take each day at a time and look forward and only look back at all the beautiful memories you must now cherish.
Posted by Henry Barker (Member # 174) on :
Like Mark Rogan, I haven't had time to log on so much recently, and I too felt a kick in the stomach when I read your post yesterday....have been thinking about you and your tragedy since.
As a father of 4, the thought of losing one of your children is hard to comprehend.
Our thoughts are with you.
Posted by Neil D. Butler (Member # 661) on :
I seem to come up short on this subject matter.... Having only one 17 year old son myself, who is working along my side this summer, it's impossible for me to understand the pain that you are going through.. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and yours.. I'm thinking of you.
Posted by Randy Campbell (Member # 2675) on :
Sympathies from the Campbell's
Posted by Jon Aston (Member # 1725) on :
...and from the Astons.
As others have said, I cannot begin to imagine the pain you must be suffering.
Posted by William DeBekker (Member # 3848) on :
Im so sorry for your loss. May they find the reason to put your mind to rest.
Posted by Lotti Prokott (Member # 2684) on :
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
I also feel for the others that have mentioned similar experiences of loss.
I wish we could each carry a little bit of your pain to make your load that much lighter.
Posted by Cpack (Member # 2011) on :
Thank you so much for your words of comfort. When I get my new scanner(mine went out during all this) I will post a picture. It was the last time I saw him alive around the 18th of June. He had been home for a visit and seemed fine. There are alot of things that happened after that with the woman he was seeing. Thanks again for all your support.
Posted by Suelynn Sedor (Member # 442) on :
My heart aches for you Cynthia. I too, can't even begin to imagine your pain. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Suelynn
Posted by Kristie Byrnes (Member # 3510) on :
Cynthia, My deepest heartfelt sympathy to you. Kristie
Posted by Harris Kohen (Member # 2139) on :
Cynthis I wish to offer you my deepest sympathies and pray for you too
Posted by Deb Fowler (Member # 1039) on :
Cynthia, May God be with you, as he is with your son right now. There is a better ending, more than we see here. So sorry, from my heart, as Bruce's post really is wonderful. I can't imagine what you are going through, but, my son is going through depression for a few years now. It is very difficult but I keep pushing for help and inspiration to give him what I am able to. The rest I leave up to God. We have family near now, and still, I see it is a cruel world out there for these young folks, and my prayers will be with you now. Peace be with you, as Nettie says the light is shining. love, Deb Fowler
Posted by Mike Clayton Graphics (Member # 723) on :
Words can not help with your terrible loss. As a Christian I know your son will now be watching over you, and yours, and never be far away if you call.
